Sunday, December 25, 2005

Giving, Receiving and Our Capacity for Wealth

more to say on my experiences and lessons with this in the next blog...

How To Use This Christmas To Expand Your Capacity To Give
And Yet Grow Richer Financially*

By David Cameron Gikandi

Christmas, that time of the year is here again. I would suggest that you
use it wisely to learn more about your subconscious financial
blueprint, and expand it. Here is how.

At Christmas time, we give gifts. And we receive gifts. It is a time of
giving and receiving, perhaps the biggest such time of the year. What
else is about giving and receiving? Money! One of the top reasons why
most people find it hard to acquire riches is because they are terrible
receivers, even worse than they are weak at giving.

If you look at all life, you will notice that it is all a process of exchange.
When you breathe, you breathe in and out. And a river gives water to
the plants, the plants give water to the atmosphere, the atmosphere
gives to the rivers, and it continues. When any part gives, another
part receives. When you buy something, you give money and receive
some kind of value from whatever you bought. Life is an exchange
that always involves give and take.

Your capacity to receive directly determines your wealth! So does
your capacity to give.

If you find it difficult to receive compliments, to be praised for your work,
to be paid highly for what you do, to be given random gifts by strangers,
to accept and see opportunities for expansion, and so on, you will find it
hard to become wealthy. If you feel that you do not deserve these things,
well, you will not get them. Likewise, if you find yourself unwilling - resisting
- to part with your money when you pay for things that you want, or you
find it hard to give some value to someone (say, helping them with something),
and so on, you will find it hard to become wealthy.

Therefore, your ultimate goal is to expand your internal capacity to give and
receive. Most people actually find it easier to give than to receive and so for
many people receiving will be the side they would work on more.

Now, let us get into how you can expand these internal capacities. First, know
that it is an internal job. You are simply going to make it OK for you internally
to give more and receive more. In other words, you will simply start feeling
better about giving and receiving anything. Feeling better. That is all. It means
you feel less and less resistance to giving and receiving anything (compliments,
gifts, money, work, etc). It means you move towards eliminating shame and
guilt when it comes to giving and receiving of anything. It means moving
towards feeling joy (the emotion of expansion) in any transaction, any give and take.

Therefore, the first step is to know how you currently feel, to become aware of
where you are right now, and face it truthfully with compassion and openness.
Do not judge yourself for anything. How do you become more aware? You do so
by observing yourself this Christmas whenever you are buying a gift, giving it,
or receiving one. How do you honestly feel? Do not run away from any feeling -
welcome them all, whatever arises. This will show you where you stand when it
comes to giving and receiving. Most importantly, take notes. Just jot down your
observations. Having it all on paper is infinitely more powerful than "thinking
about it".

By the time Christmas is done, you should have a nice little notebook full of all
your feelings towards giving and receiving. This notebook will show you exactly
where you have difficulties allowing wealth to come your way. This is why:
Your results in life are determined by what you think and feel. You never act
in ways that you have not thought about or felt about. Your thoughts and
feelings prompt whatever actions you take or don't take. In fact, they go as far
as determining what opportunities you see or don't see, believe or don't believe.
The only problem is that a lot of us are not aware of what our feelings are because
we try not to feel them! And so in that resistance, that avoiding to feel, we make
ourselves unable to consciously know what we feel. What is pushed out of conscious
awareness through resistance becomes unconscious. Yet it still affects us and
our reality. The smart thing to do would be to make it conscious again so that
you can deal with it.

* David Cameron is the author of wealth and self development books such as
A Happy Pocket Full of Money,
showing many how to create the lives of their
and beyond. Download free trial ebooks and software,
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